We generally see change as a problem to be solved. So if I have a problem with anxiety, my solution might be to take up relaxation classes, and try to make myself less anxious. When people come to see me, one of the things that often emerges is the reason they have come, is not because they haven't tried to change. Their story is one of trying very hard to change, and finding that for some reason they are unable to.
To practice ethically I have a commitment to continually update my knowledge. A little while ago I was sitting with 15 other people doing the same, when this way of understanding guilt and grief appeared. To me, this way of understanding felt transformative and also helpful, so I have written a short article about it.